So, I've been shopping around for some good royalty free music - and for a month. I've been able to find some decent sites and some good sites, however, the good sites are so wishy washy about what you can do to thier music. They aren't very clear.
UNTIL NOW!
There's this great website for wonderful music and sound effects! Best of all, there's no BS as to how you can use thier music - they spell it out clearly.
Last week, I was thinking of a client I had worked on about 5 months ago. She came in for hair pulling. She would pull her hair and eat it.
I decided to give her a call and see how she was doing. Now, I realize most hypnotists are worried about calling old clients wondering if thier work together was effective. But you may do yourslef a dis-service if you don't.
Following up with clients is one of the best ways to fine tune and affirm what you are doing.
She was excited to hear my voice as she has been free from this habit that controlled her for over 10 years. She kept saying how she was going to email me. After a little bit of more of conversation, she admitted she didn't call me because she figured I get successes like this all the time and didn't want to "Bother me" ... I told her "for something like this bother me anytime"
Next week I'm working with her mom for weight loss :).
With Baseball season here and present, I decided to bring back a
blog post I wrote for Tom Nicoli’s website last year.Enjoy!
With baseball season coming up,
I have thoughts of playing in another weekend league.37 years of age and still
playing baseball with the young-ins. I must be doing something right. I even
made my way on the pitcher’s mound last year and did pretty darn good. And
while on the pitcher’s mound I noticed some keen observations about baseball
and hypnosis. Below is an email I wrote to my teammates to pump us up half way
through the Winter League Season. After all, we needed pumping up as we were in
dead last!
Matt Sison - Baseball and
Hypnosis
To my teammates: Ok, I have some
keen observations while being on that mound yesterday.
This will show some things we
can do as a team to keep our level of focus on following through with execution
throughout the game. .
First some very quick background
on something called hypnosis:
When someone is in a state of
focus, we'll have what hypnotists like to call "trance,” and you can have
trance in a fully alert state. In fact that's actually what trance is, a more
"alert" state of awareness. As you can sense, hypnosis is a
completely natural state of being and not necessarily what you may see on stage
hypnosis shows or movies with a subject in a very "relaxed" state.
Some examples of a
"trance" state as it relates to the baseball: 1) A pitcher on the
pitching mound completely involved on his next pitch, 2) a batter in the
batter's box completely involved in the moment and focused on the next pitch,
3) a fielder on the field waiting for the next pitch wondering what the batter
will do with the next pitch.
Now as you can sense, these 3
examples involve being present to the moment and anticipating what may happen
next. When you can have someone so completely involved in the moment you'll
have trance. This state alone leaves a player open to suggestions from outside
himself. Now, if you can have this state in someone, plus have them
anticipating what you're going to say or do next, this increases their state of
suggestibility, and the right or wrong suggestions can make the player stronger
or weaker at that particular moment (more on this last portion later)
So how do we use this to our
advantage?
Let's take a batter who just
swung and missed. Keep in mind he is in trance … nothing matters more to him
then hitting that round ball. He's not worried about yesterday or tomorrow.
He's involved in this particular present moment. However, upon missing the
ball, everybody on the team noticed he pulled his head away. So what does
someone on the team yell? "You pulled your head away keep your head in!”
Now, I know whoever may have
yelled this suggestion out would have only the thought of reminding the batter
to keep his head in. But take a closer look at the suggestion… "you pulled
your head away…" This first suggestion has now got the batter to imprint a
visualization of him pulling his head away from the ball and many times, in a
trance like state, the first suggestion will pull to it similar thoughts and
ideas before he can re-focus on the intended purpose of the suggestion:
"Keep your head in.” Moreover, sometimes, the batter may never get
re-focused on “keep your head in” because he’s overpowered by the first suggestion.
A better suggestion would have
been something to the effect of "keep your head in and hit the ball hard.”
Notice how I deleted "you pulled your head away."
Studies have shown that we play
better individually and as a team when we have relaxed focused as opposed to
nervous focus. Relaxed focus keeps our muscles loose so we can react more
effectively to possible scenarios as opposed to muscles that are tense. When I
say relaxed focused, I don't mean someone who's in a Zen-like state on the
field chanting OM. You can still be angry on the field but still have a relaxed
focus. An athlete that reminds me of this before he lost it is Mike Tyson
Think back to when he was first
on the scene. We all knew he was angry even back then, but he had a relaxed
focus that was unshakeable. His punches were crisp, quick and powerful. Now,
think about him toward the end of his career: He was still angry (possibly more
so) yet, he lost that relaxed focus. It turned into a muscularly tight focus
where he was pushing his punches and trying to muscle his wins rather then go
back to what worked better for him.
So let’s remember that words are more then just words. They hold power. So as a
team, let’s do the best we can to keep our players relaxed and focused. It’ll
serve us better.
(End of email to teammates)
Oh, and by the way, you may be
wondering how our team did after this email I sent to them. Although, we didn’t
make it to first place, at least we got out of the “cellar” and even ended up
with surprising victories over the 1st and 2nd place team.
I've had a wonderful reminder this week about how
self-regressions (and or regressions with another) are so vital for us to
help ourselves and our clients.
In the last week I have been dealing
with Scitica! AAAUUGGHH... never had it in my life (i've had back problems
but not this). I've been feeling, tapping, meditating and self-regressing this
whole week. I never hit the motherlode until this morning. I got desperate
and got a massage, which actually made it worse and I was going to see
an acupuncturist and was considering visiting a western medical doctor.
So, from trying to heal myself this week (some of you may know how I
healed myself using regression concepts and methods, from
genetic high blood pressure - if not, email me and I'll share), I may have poked a hole
in the pocket of venom and on one day got temporary results and
started feeling slightly better (for a couple of hours), but only
slightly...and then this morning, I woke up in excrutiating pain in my back,
my butt and down my right leg. I couldn't even get out of bed.
Fortunately, my morning appt cancelled (funny how the universe works) ...
So, with that pain, I said F--- it. I'm getting to the bottom (funny word
"bottom" to use) of this today!
Off into a deep regression I go.. and I
mean deep - I won't go into the details, but a major highlight is when dad
used to spank me for things as a child for situations I thought was fun
(small things that a child does). Released the feelings, got authentic
forgiveness for him (felt that real love that comes up when negative feelings
are cleared) and gave him a big hug (even called him today to tell him
I love him and thanked him for all he did for us - something that I
have only done once). Anyhow, during and after the session I realized
I have been ever so slightly squeezing my butt - meaning I've been holding
my tension there - because I was subconsciously trying to protect myself from
getting a whooping (like my dad gave me whn I was younger).
Long story
short, the sciatica pain is now down to a 2 of 10! When I woke up it was a 10
and felt like it was going to get worse!!!
Furthermore, I realized
(deeper) something about self-forgivness. As I was achieving self-forgiveness
I was feeling like there was something else to forgive myself for that I
wasn't getting. Then it hit me! "I forgive myself for being afraid of dad and
being nervous around him and holding back my love for him" .... I had to
forgive myself for the feelings I was carrying as well as my
mis-perceptions. And I could only get there after I released the feelings.
Otherwise, I'd be still be stuck in them.
Ok, so, I just wanted to
remind you (and me) that we have to continue our release work if we want to
consistently be succesful in our office. Healing is constant until we reach
consistent enlightenment. I remember talking to a buddhist monk that said
"enlightenment is easy, it's holding on to it that's hard" and that's where
regression work comes in. We're here to release the "road blocks" in the form
of old habits and perceptions that are living inside of us disguised
as feelings. I do hope that you all are continuing to do your
own regression work (so many hypnotherapist only do sessions with
another hypnotherapist only once, if ever) whether it be
through self-regression or with someone else. The insights that come up
are crucial in helping clients move through thier own issues.
Word-sets come up miraculously - and this intuition seeps into your
client sessions. This is why I love regression work so much! It helps
my clients and it helps me!!! I'll let you know how my progress goes but I
do feel that I hit the motherlode this morning. My butt feels very relaxed
now :)
So, I ask you to ask yourselves, when was the last time you did
a truly honest regression session with
yourselves.
